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January 2012

Happy 2012 Everyone

Despite all the doom and gloom that has been talked about in relation to this year, I am choosing to be optimistic and believe that it is not all coming to an end, and that it will be a year of gentle transformations. I can’t help thinking that what we do and what is in our heart is what we will become; so be careful and mindful.

This is a year when one of the best things we can do it to keep things simple, build on what we have and make simple changes in our lives to help improve things. We have been obsessed with growth for a long time but sometimes focusing on what is important and real is more important; and health is one such thing.

Being healthy, relaxed and trying to achieve balance in our lives are good things to strive for this year. I think we need to take our lead from the East on this one, at the centre of the teachings of Chinese Medicine is the idea of balance; balancing the mind and the body and keeping them in harmony. I hope that you can learn to let go of any rigidity in the way you think, listen to your bodies and to your emotions. We need to appreciate our connection to the world around us; clarity in our emotional lives will have far reaching effects. We need to strive to find peace within ourselves, and love and harmony in our relationships with others will quickly follow. We need to hold on to the truth about what makes us happy, content and fertile and that is love, kindness and compassion.

I hope that in my practice more men are encouraged to seek help for their health and emotional issues, particularly in the area of fertility which is usually driven entirely by the woman. There is so much men can do to be involved in this process and to be there as a pillar of strength for their partner. These maybe old fashioned notions but some things never change and creating a child is about the union of both the man and the woman and so it is important that both are on board. Women need to go easy, not to nag men too much and to help lead but not pressure. Men need to step up to the mark; I see many women going through IVF because their partner has been unwilling to make changes necessary to improve his health. It is hard then for resentment not to build in the relationship. Be in it together, talk to each other and try and find some common ground. I believe it is the health of both parents at the time of conception that determines the health of the child. 

For those trying to conceive naturally make time for each other and make time for sex, don't just schedule it in and minimise it down to when the sticks say you are ovulating, this only reduces your chances of conception. It may sound obvious but if you are trying to have a baby then make sex a priority and have fun trying.  

Have a very happy and healthy 2012